be true to yourself...do what YOU want to do (of course within reason and applicable laws)...if someone says "you can't do that" tell 'em to go fuck themselves...people said i couldn't have a lavender house....got one....oh i could not paint my kitchen multi-colors...watch me....i'm 40 and i can tell you that life is a journey and you are always questioning but do what YOU want to do...someone treats you like shit, show 'em the door....be strong, be yourself and don't listen to 'conventional wisdom'....